If I had to give one piece of advice to trans people, other than be yourselves, it would be this: you may be a minority in this world, but remember that the people who hate you and discriminate against you are an even smaller minority. When you see hateful comments directed at or about trans people in response to articles on media sites, remember that the people expressing those ugly thoughts represent a tiny minority of people. The vast majority of people are not bigots. They are not transphobes. They are not ugly inside. They believe in live and let live, and would never say anything hateful to or about you.
As for the bigots out there, feel sorry for them, because there is something inside them that is far uglier than any human could be on the surface. Even the most beautiful women in the world will eventually become somewhat less than beautiful as they age and gravity takes its toll. But whatever inner beauty they have will stay with them to the day they die . . . and well beyond.
So, as much as you concentrate on your outer beauty — and, lordie, I know all about that — concentrate on your inner beauty even more, because at the last trump, that is what you will be remembered for. And have some compassion for the bigots and transphobes, because they know not what they do.
Jillian
Readers’ comments
Hi Jillian,
I have to disagree with you that bigots are a smaller minority than we are. If that were the case in general, there simply wouldn’t be so many deaths or lost jobs or homeless trans people. There wouldn’t be such an outcry when a trans rights ordinance is being enacted in almost every community. I think we have to face the fact that perhaps a third to one half of the USA is bigoted. On the issue of race, a recent study indicated that half of the USA is actually racist. Now, in Canada, I expect your comments to be true so if that is what your article was intending perhaps you might make an update. Personally, I consider Canada to be a shining example of the proper way to run a nation for every citizen. My family has tried many times to move to Canada to escape the madness here in the USA but Canada makes it very difficult to enter. We still hold out hope that someday we will make it.
Margaret
